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Testy Toddlers
Discipline
NannyConnie™
August 5, 2017
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Disciplining your toddler is necessary. I laugh as I write this because at the age of two I can’t imagine someone needing to enforce “the Big D”, discipline. If you think that magic time out chair in the corner is going to work, that’s even funnier. They only get over there and play and I’m sure this makes you more aggravated. Toddlers are going to push your buttons because they do not understand boundaries yet. Boundaries are the foundation of training up a child. Just think about it this way, you would spiral out of control if you were placed on a job and you knew nothing about it. Especially an astronaut or nuclear physicist. I am sure most of us did not take physics in high school … hope you’re getting my point.

Patience, consistency, and repetition will be the key tools to raising your child. These words are very important and you’re going to have to use them over and over. Making eye contact and explaining why certain things should or shouldn’t be done with your toddler is very important.

I know sometimes you may feel like you’re getting nowhere but trust me it is sinking in. It’s going to take a lot of time. Sometimes you may have to take away favorite toys and only reintroduce them after good behavior. They will get the point, trust me. Explain to them that their toys are unhappy when they’re chucked across the room, buried in the backyard, or drugged down the driveway. Toddlers know about sad and happy feelings. It’s their favorite toys we are talking about and toys are serious to toddlers. DON’T SAY IT UNLESS YOU MEAN IT…… make sure you plan on following through. If you don’t follow through, you only make yourself look and be the biggest joke in your child’s eyes …. take your time, you have this, just be the parent.

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Grandparents
Family
NannyConnie™
July 29, 2017
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Grandparents handling your daughter vs handling your daughter-in-law after the new arrival can be very difficult if things are not handled very gently. Don’t get me wrong some mother in law’s and daughter in laws have relationships as if they were mother and daughter. Then there’s the other side of that coin, where they just don’t get along. Everyone raises their children differently and no one can tell your child who to fall in love with. We must remember when our children say I do, they’re saying I do to the person across from them and the remainder of the family. All other family members must get in where they fit in. Don’t wear your feelings on your shoulders, it takes time to blend two completely different families. Be patient and be kind to each other. Any feelings you may have towards your daughter-in-law keep it to yourself until you both can work it out like adults. Now is not the time. Besides, the babies did not ask for any drama they are innocent bystanders. Blending families works well when both families communicate and set boundaries early on.

Now will this work for every situation, I can’t promise you it will. We as parents must remember children come into this world innocent little angels and it’s not for parents to taint their view or put restrictions on them from knowing the other side of their family. However, if they are wanted by the FBI or aliens from another planet by all means put some restrictions in place. When you have your grandchild, you will soon realize that’s it’s all about making memories with them and that’s it. I can tell you from past experiences, I’ve seen the hurt grandparent in law when they are unable to visit their grandchildren. Nobody is perfect and it is not up to the parents to pass judgment. One day your children will be grandparents and they will see the need to share the love of that innocent little person. Don’t ever stop trying to keep the doors of communication open, but don’t try so hard that you scar your heart to the point of depression, I’ve seen this happen before. Remember you can’t make someone change their mind about you, continue to try to communicate and remember just be the parent.

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Date Night
Relationship
NannyConnie™
July 24, 2017
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Have you ever looked across the room and your heart skipped a beat? Think about how you and your mate met, nobody else probably thinks the way you met is romantic but the two of you think it should go in a book or movie. That’s the way it’s supposed to be after you have a child as well. The same love that you and your partner shared before the baby should continue after the baby is born. It will take the both of you to make the necessary adjustments to get back on track.

Date-night is super important, it can be something as simple as taking a ride to the ice cream shop, an evening drive, or sitting somewhere quiet just to be able to talk with your mate without any interruptions. It doesn’t have to be anything over the top. Just appreciate each other, let each other know the sacrifices you both have made are not going unnoticed. Communication keeps the nucleus of the family together. It’s not all about you, it doesn’t stop after the first date, first kiss, or saying I do. After you start your family that is really when the dating begins. Make plans together, continue to love each, and just be the parent!

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Sleep Tight
Sleep
NannyConnie™
July 16, 2017
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Is everyone in the house sleep deprived because of a child that wakes up crying in the middle of the night? I have a few suggestions because I know the last thing you want to do is place them in your bed. The key here is to be consistent and patient with the process of getting your child to sleep through the night in their OWN room.

For infants, first sit in a comfortable chair in their room, DO NOT ROCK. Put a burp cloth on you so that it captures your smell. That way when you lay them down you can lay them on the burp cloth and they’ll think you’re still holding them. Hum so they can feel the vibration of the hum and the beat of your heart. Be sure to gently stroke them. Make sure you remain calm because they can absolutely sense your frustration.

For toddlers, if you have not already, you should invest in a youth bed that has a trundle underneath. Pick one that you like because you’re about to spend many nights there. Alter nights with your partner remember you’re in this together. When it is bed time, put them in their bed, and when they come to your room or begins crying for someone, walk them back to their bed and stay in the room with them. If they cry, remember that this has become a habit of something they want you to do in the night. This will pass, stay strong, and you got this! Parenting is chess not checkers! Just Be The Parent!

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