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Go With The Flow
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NannyConnie™
August 20, 2017
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The terrible twos aren’t really the time you want to push, try, implement, or force potty training. This is one of those times that your child is going through a growth spurt mentally and physically, possibly welcoming a new sibling, and having playdates with other toddlers. During this time as a parent you don’t know what’s going on, and your child sure as hell doesn’t know what’s going on. Now add into the mix that you’ve decided it’s time to inform them that those diapers they’ve been wearing the past two years have to go. I mean talk about information overload. Your focus at this time should be setting some boundaries to help everyone keep their sanity.

Now do you understand why I say wait until their 2 ½ to 3 years old. At this point they start to get a rhythm and their brain starts to digest the new system you are trying to implement. At three they are more verbal and really understand what you’re saying to them. You guys are having more of an engaged conversation. For the majority of you who start before two you’ll probably have weeks of stress, a lot of accidents, mixed signals, and regression. True the peanut gallery will tell you their stories of how they potty trained before 2 at 2 or around 2 but they don’t tell you about the pull-ups in the middle of the night and the hell they went through to make it happen. Don’t get me wrong there are exceptions to the rule for knocking it out before, at or around 2 but they are just what I called them exceptions! It’s perfectly fine to engage in their early curiosity about using the bathroom through books, conversations, videos, and action. Bottom line don’t stress the wee time it will happen!

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Me Time
Relationship
NannyConnie™
August 12, 2017
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Keeping up with the maintenance on anything from your vehicle, home, or even yourself through a visit to your doctor is mandatory! A lack of maintenance will lead to a lack in performance eventually leading to malfunction. Consider me time to be parenting maintenance.

How can you give 200 percent if you’re not putting in 100 percent for yourself? You require maintenance just like your car and home. You will only get out what you put in, so don’t sell yourself short. Think of yourself as a track star, sprinters get exhausted after so many yards but cross-country runners pace themselves. Be that cross country runner because as a parent you’re in this for the long haul. Make sure you take time out for some much needed “me time”, and don’t beat yourself up about it. Think of it this way, if you’re exhausted how will you be able to give your child 200 percent if your tank is only 20 percent full? Take your time, be patient, and consistent with carving out a little me time for yourself. And remember HE even rested on the 7th day.

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Testy Toddlers
Discipline
NannyConnie™
August 5, 2017
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Disciplining your toddler is necessary. I laugh as I write this because at the age of two I can’t imagine someone needing to enforce “the Big D”, discipline. If you think that magic time out chair in the corner is going to work, that’s even funnier. They only get over there and play and I’m sure this makes you more aggravated. Toddlers are going to push your buttons because they do not understand boundaries yet. Boundaries are the foundation of training up a child. Just think about it this way, you would spiral out of control if you were placed on a job and you knew nothing about it. Especially an astronaut or nuclear physicist. I am sure most of us did not take physics in high school … hope you’re getting my point.

Patience, consistency, and repetition will be the key tools to raising your child. These words are very important and you’re going to have to use them over and over. Making eye contact and explaining why certain things should or shouldn’t be done with your toddler is very important.

I know sometimes you may feel like you’re getting nowhere but trust me it is sinking in. It’s going to take a lot of time. Sometimes you may have to take away favorite toys and only reintroduce them after good behavior. They will get the point, trust me. Explain to them that their toys are unhappy when they’re chucked across the room, buried in the backyard, or drugged down the driveway. Toddlers know about sad and happy feelings. It’s their favorite toys we are talking about and toys are serious to toddlers. DON’T SAY IT UNLESS YOU MEAN IT…… make sure you plan on following through. If you don’t follow through, you only make yourself look and be the biggest joke in your child’s eyes …. take your time, you have this, just be the parent.

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Grandparents
Family
NannyConnie™
July 29, 2017
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Grandparents handling your daughter vs handling your daughter-in-law after the new arrival can be very difficult if things are not handled very gently. Don’t get me wrong some mother in law’s and daughter in laws have relationships as if they were mother and daughter. Then there’s the other side of that coin, where they just don’t get along. Everyone raises their children differently and no one can tell your child who to fall in love with. We must remember when our children say I do, they’re saying I do to the person across from them and the remainder of the family. All other family members must get in where they fit in. Don’t wear your feelings on your shoulders, it takes time to blend two completely different families. Be patient and be kind to each other. Any feelings you may have towards your daughter-in-law keep it to yourself until you both can work it out like adults. Now is not the time. Besides, the babies did not ask for any drama they are innocent bystanders. Blending families works well when both families communicate and set boundaries early on.

Now will this work for every situation, I can’t promise you it will. We as parents must remember children come into this world innocent little angels and it’s not for parents to taint their view or put restrictions on them from knowing the other side of their family. However, if they are wanted by the FBI or aliens from another planet by all means put some restrictions in place. When you have your grandchild, you will soon realize that’s it’s all about making memories with them and that’s it. I can tell you from past experiences, I’ve seen the hurt grandparent in law when they are unable to visit their grandchildren. Nobody is perfect and it is not up to the parents to pass judgment. One day your children will be grandparents and they will see the need to share the love of that innocent little person. Don’t ever stop trying to keep the doors of communication open, but don’t try so hard that you scar your heart to the point of depression, I’ve seen this happen before. Remember you can’t make someone change their mind about you, continue to try to communicate and remember just be the parent.

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